One More Case for Luck
(See post below for theme.)
Then again maybe choices can't be smart or dumb, just good or bad in retrospect - determined, of course, by how lucky you were. Case in point, I just learned that one of my sorority sisters, who was an early bride, is now an early divorcee. She had dated her husband all through college (4 years) and they got married shortly after; everyone says that he was a super-nice guy who was completely devoted to her, and even now, after the divorce, they are still friends.
What happened? Apparently the guy became a bona fide crazy. One day, perhaps in a schizophrenic fit, he went completely off into the deep end and hung their cat from the rafters.
Could the wife have made an informed decision and taken reasonable steps to avoid being a divorcee at 26? I'm inclined to think not. What more can you do beyond dating a guy through your whole college life? Some might say she should have waited, but would that sound like a necessary condition if they were in love and partnered up the way they were? Others might say she should have known, that there must have been warning signs; but I'm told that schizophrenia (if indeed that was the culprit) often sets in late in life, around one's twenties. Is it so unreasonable then to hope that the person you love will NOT someday transform into a raging nutzo?
I think not. This leads me to believe that she was just very, very unlucky.
Then again maybe choices can't be smart or dumb, just good or bad in retrospect - determined, of course, by how lucky you were. Case in point, I just learned that one of my sorority sisters, who was an early bride, is now an early divorcee. She had dated her husband all through college (4 years) and they got married shortly after; everyone says that he was a super-nice guy who was completely devoted to her, and even now, after the divorce, they are still friends.
What happened? Apparently the guy became a bona fide crazy. One day, perhaps in a schizophrenic fit, he went completely off into the deep end and hung their cat from the rafters.
Could the wife have made an informed decision and taken reasonable steps to avoid being a divorcee at 26? I'm inclined to think not. What more can you do beyond dating a guy through your whole college life? Some might say she should have waited, but would that sound like a necessary condition if they were in love and partnered up the way they were? Others might say she should have known, that there must have been warning signs; but I'm told that schizophrenia (if indeed that was the culprit) often sets in late in life, around one's twenties. Is it so unreasonable then to hope that the person you love will NOT someday transform into a raging nutzo?
I think not. This leads me to believe that she was just very, very unlucky.
posted by Rex at 2:03 PM
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