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Hey Andrew! I just turned 12 and I wanted to say your music has really inspired me to do stuff I was afraid to do. I have your album "I Get Wet" and I listen to it every night. I wanted to know how you would tell a girl you like her, but not like saying "you're hot" and shit like that. If you know, please respond!!! Later dude!
asked by Andrew on Wednesday, June 1, 2005
Answer:
Dear Andrew,
...Thanks so much for listening to "I Get Wet". It pleases me to know that it's helped you face your fears. Remember that it's not bad to be afraid, as long as we can face our fears and use them to understand ourselves more clearly... although the idea of "No Fear" is still very appealing and exciting in it's own right - I think it's essentially the same as "Face Your Fear". This brings us to the issue of the girl: Talking to a girl (or anyone) is technically very easy - all you have to do is open your mouth and make words come out. It's knowing what words you want to say that can be difficult - plus, how to say them, when to say them, and then... what will SHE say in response? When you like a girl, you have to put your pride on the line. Attraction, love, romance, and intimacy are all risks, and each time we engage in an experience with another person, we put ourselves in a vulnerable place. I personally think this is great. I think exposing oneself to the passions of life is the only way to form - it's an opportunity to loose sense of who we are, only to snap back with a better understanding of what it means to be "myself". The more you reduce the importance of pride and the fears of embarrassment, the more opportunities will present themselves. Meaning: no matter what, you're going to be O.K. and the more vulnerable you can be, the less you'll need to protect yourself from being hurt. You don't need to worry about what exactly to say to this girl, just walk up to her and say "Hi"... Do your best to look in her eyes when you talk to her - that might be hard at first, especially if she's really beautiful, but do your best to look into her eyes when you're speaking and when you're listening to her. You'll have to pick one eye, as it's impossible to focus on both eyes at once - although you can focus on the space right between her eyes, at the bridge of her nose - that will appear to her to be the same as you looking in both her eyes, but actually you won't looking at either of them - it's the "light" way to make eye contact, and I recommend the real and "heavy" way: pick one eye or the other and stick with it (or switch back and forth). Even if she looks away, you need to force yourself to keep focused on her eyes. You'll see that it's not so bad after a while. You can also try looking at her mouth, especially when she's talking to you, and especially if her mouth is lovely. Remember, it's moments like these that make life worth living. Don't pass up the chances to take a risk! That's all we have. When it feels scary and nervous, that means you're onto something! That means you're going for it! No matter what happens, and no matter what she says, you will have accomplished one more experience to add to your real-life education. You'll learn from it and it will make you stronger, and no matter what, you'll still have the music you love and another day to try it all tomorrow... and into the future, your friend, Andrew W.K.
answered by Andrew W.K. on Friday, June 3 , 2005 4:27 AM
Hey Andrew! I just turned 12 and I wanted to say your music has really inspired me to do stuff I was afraid to do. I have your album "I Get Wet" and I listen to it every night. I wanted to know how you would tell a girl you like her, but not like saying "you're hot" and shit like that. If you know, please respond!!! Later dude!
asked by Andrew on Wednesday, June 1, 2005
Answer:
Dear Andrew,
...Thanks so much for listening to "I Get Wet". It pleases me to know that it's helped you face your fears. Remember that it's not bad to be afraid, as long as we can face our fears and use them to understand ourselves more clearly... although the idea of "No Fear" is still very appealing and exciting in it's own right - I think it's essentially the same as "Face Your Fear". This brings us to the issue of the girl: Talking to a girl (or anyone) is technically very easy - all you have to do is open your mouth and make words come out. It's knowing what words you want to say that can be difficult - plus, how to say them, when to say them, and then... what will SHE say in response? When you like a girl, you have to put your pride on the line. Attraction, love, romance, and intimacy are all risks, and each time we engage in an experience with another person, we put ourselves in a vulnerable place. I personally think this is great. I think exposing oneself to the passions of life is the only way to form - it's an opportunity to loose sense of who we are, only to snap back with a better understanding of what it means to be "myself". The more you reduce the importance of pride and the fears of embarrassment, the more opportunities will present themselves. Meaning: no matter what, you're going to be O.K. and the more vulnerable you can be, the less you'll need to protect yourself from being hurt. You don't need to worry about what exactly to say to this girl, just walk up to her and say "Hi"... Do your best to look in her eyes when you talk to her - that might be hard at first, especially if she's really beautiful, but do your best to look into her eyes when you're speaking and when you're listening to her. You'll have to pick one eye, as it's impossible to focus on both eyes at once - although you can focus on the space right between her eyes, at the bridge of her nose - that will appear to her to be the same as you looking in both her eyes, but actually you won't looking at either of them - it's the "light" way to make eye contact, and I recommend the real and "heavy" way: pick one eye or the other and stick with it (or switch back and forth). Even if she looks away, you need to force yourself to keep focused on her eyes. You'll see that it's not so bad after a while. You can also try looking at her mouth, especially when she's talking to you, and especially if her mouth is lovely. Remember, it's moments like these that make life worth living. Don't pass up the chances to take a risk! That's all we have. When it feels scary and nervous, that means you're onto something! That means you're going for it! No matter what happens, and no matter what she says, you will have accomplished one more experience to add to your real-life education. You'll learn from it and it will make you stronger, and no matter what, you'll still have the music you love and another day to try it all tomorrow... and into the future, your friend, Andrew W.K.
answered by Andrew W.K. on Friday, June 3 , 2005 4:27 AM
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